This post was written by Cathy Petrie, LCSW, MSW, bereavement counselor, Parkview Hospice.
Friendship in an extended care facility is a special gift, especially during a time that is often marked by significant life changes and uncertainties. Doris Mast provided that gift to her peers and staff at Waters of LaGrange Skilled Nursing & Rehabilitation. During her life, she had been a capable, hardworking dairy farm wife raising her six children, but in her later years, she found herself needing specialized care. Instead of lamenting this new phase in life, she chose to share her smile, sense of humor and family with others.
Attitude of fun and friendship
In the final years of life, finding a friend is crucial for maintaining mental and emotional well-being. A fun sense of humor and a smile were Doris' natural gifts. She shared them freely in her extended care home. Doris loved to pass along silly sayings and songs throughout her days to bring a light-hearted laugh to many. Residents and staff are still laughing and smiling as they share those comments and memories of her with each other.
Sharing family and purpose
Social connection and purpose in senior years are needed to help embrace the integrity of a meaningful life. Doris chose to be a positive companion to her peers by including them in her family visits, during which weekly board games of "washers" were a favorite. Snacks, laughter and the occasional bending of the rules provided residents with a sense of belonging to their afternoon.
As Doris' health declined, Parkview Hospice served alongside Waters SNF & Rehabilitation staff members to ensure her comfort. A dedicated space in her room allowed family, residents and staff to share meaningful goodbyes filled with tears, laughter and many stories.
Gratitude for a life well lived, a facility that values the dignity of life, and the support of hospice services brought comfort to Doris in her final moments. Family and staff assisted residents to attend funeral services.
Parting gifts
In search of a way to offer residents and staff a lasting reminder of Doris' presence, Sarah Marble, director of nursing at Waters of Lagrange, recommended creating Legacy Bears from Doris' clothing. She asked Doris' loved ones, who continue to visit and spend time with residents in honor of her memory, and they agreed.
Parkview hospice volunteer Cathy Smith lovingly crafted stuffed bears from Doris' favorite dresses. The keepsakes were passed out during a surprise reception with Doris' son, and many immediately recognized the material, especially the ones made from pink textiles, her signature color. During the gathering many shared more fun stories of her life, a life she chose to make a gift.
Learn more
If you have questions or want more information about hospice and palliative care services or a patient referral to Parkview Hospice, please call 260-373-9800 or 800-363-9977. You can also complete our online form here. We are happy to answer your questions and walk those paths with you.
